By Rike Sonjaya
I joined the top literacy fellowship in the begining of the year. And what did I get? Resolution all of participant fellowship for 2020. There is nothing wrong with that. Because I’m sure everyone is the same way. Make resolutions every year. Over and over again.
In my opinion, resolutions are not much more than wishes. Elusive goals that make with the best of intentions, but rarely keep.
Sure I want to write a list of all the things I’m going to do differently this year and how I’m going to become a ‘new’ person. But I know better than that. In a month I will have forgotten. In 6 months I’ll be disappointed about how little I’ve achieved, never-mind that my life circumstances and priorities will have changed by then, and I won’t get anywhere.
Resolutions tell you where you want to be but not how to get there. Instead of resolutions set goals. Small goals and often.
They don’t have to be huge life changing things. Maybe it’s that you want to catch up with a friend this week or clean out your wardrobe. Whatever it is that you fell you need.
If your aim is to save money then think about what you’re going to do differently in the short and long term. Are you doing this for you or because you think other people want you to and why does that mater?
The problem with setting goals though is that you are always seeking ‘more’. More than you have. More than who you are. Achieving them won’t suddenly bring your happiness but maybe they’ll push you a little closer.
The most important thing I have to say is to make sure you spend time living. Live isn’t all about the far off future, it’s also about where you are right now. If you spend it setting goals then when do you actually get to enjoy yourself?
This year I’m not making resolutions. I’m setting a goal and one goal only. I want to become happier and more accepting of who I am.